Speed dating pros and cons
I just ran into my buddy Andy at a restaurant-—the kind of hip place you'd take a first date to impress her.Knowing he'd gone through a difficult divorce—one he didn't really want—I was pleased when he immediately introduced me to his new girlfriend, Carol. Andy and Carol turned to one another and began mumbling something indecipherable for what seemed to be an eternity.Most people I've interviewed prefer online dating to the bar scene because online dating offers a better chance of getting a first date.Post a reasonably attractive picture, sell your life's resume, and wait for the solicitations to pour in.Makes sense; it's easier to endure rejection from afar rather than have someone laugh directly in your face.FYI: my female clients claim that it‘s a must for a woman to have a terrific picture to get online attention but it's not as important for a man to have one.In fact, one woman admonished him for not posting a picture: "If I have to put one up there you should to," she said.
Having been an abysmal failure at the dating scene for many, many years, and finally meeting and marrying someone I met at work, I reject this statement.
Before the internet were the "lonely hearts" columns of the newspapers, which served the same purpose but at the speed of snail mail.
Folks used to be embarrassed to admit using those ads, too.
No need to drop a pound or two and drag yourself to a Happy Hour or a meet-up group.
Nope; just a couple of taps on your keyboard and presto: Janine appears on your screen to tell you that she loves to laugh, isn't needy, loves her children more than life itself, and can find time to fit you into her mind-boggling schedule.